We Need Your Help!

SOBS currently has 60+ support groups set up across the UK, but there are still large areas that we haven’t reached, and we need your help to do this.

We are looking to raise £50,000+ to expand our support group network, and to train and develop our existing network to make sure we are offering the best possible support.

If you would like to help this campaign and donate, please visit: https://www.justgiving.com/campaigns/charity/sbbs/supportgroupcampaign

You can also text donate to this campaign, by texting ‘SOBS02 £5’ to 70070 to donate £5 to this campaign. Donations can be £1, £2, £3, £4, £5 or £10, by changing the value in the text message.

The campaign is also live on our Facebook page, over at https://www.facebook.com/SOBSCharity

Whitehaven Girls Skydive in memory of John

Most friends would spend their time shopping, watching films or meeting up for a coffee. Stacey Weir (29, Whitehaven) and Lauren Graham (26, Whitehaven) are not your average friends. They are going to be joining forces as they skydive to raise money for Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide (SOBS) Cumbria on Saturday 29 April. The pair are jumping in memory of Stacey’s dad, John Hyncica, who sadly took his own life in 2014.

Each year, more than 6,000 people take their own lives across the UK: SOBS is a national charity which works to provide emotional support to those who have been left behind. SOBS Cumbria support groups meet once a month, with groups in North, South and West Cumbria. They also have a local 24/7 helpline.

The choice to raise funds for SOBS Cumbria was clear to Stacey. “When something like that [suicide] happens, it’s hard to understand what’s going on. With SOBS Cumbria, you’re speaking to people who have had similar experiences, so you’re with people who know what it feels like. In a way, you can relate to each other. Some people don’t have anyone, so it’s really important that the support is there for people who might be going through it by themselves.

“Lauren is one of my best friends; she saw how hard it was for me when my dad died. I told her about what I was planning to do and she offered to join me so that we could raise more money and help more people. We’re both really excited and nervous; Lauren’s definitely scared about the jump!”

SOBS Cumbria provides support locally to people in and around Cumbria, South Scotland, North Lancashire and North East England. “I’m glad I’m helping a local charity, because it means that I’m helping local people.

“Everyone says I’m crazy, but that I’m doing an amazing thing. They say my dad would be proud. I’ve always wanted to do a lot of extreme things, like bungee jumping and skydiving; my dad liked extreme things too.”

So far, the pair have raised £1,090 of their £2,000 target.

If you’d like to support Stacey and Lauren’s fundraising campaign, visit their BT MyDonate donation page. Alternatively, you can donate via JustTextGiving by texting SOBS00 to 70070 followed by the amount you wish to donate (e.g. “SOBS00 £30). Donations to JustTextGiving start at £10. If you would like to donate by cheque, please make it payable to ‘SOBS Cumbria’ and send it to SOBS Cumbria, 28 Castleview Road, Appleby-in-Westmorland, Cumbria, CA16 6HH.

If you are struggling with the death of someone who has taken their own life and need someone to listen to your experience and offer you support, please do get in touch. You can call the SOBS Cumbria 24/7 helpline on 07572 975 721 (John) or 07896 703 757 (Karan). You can also email us at hello@sobs-cumbria.org.uk, or you can visit us on Facebook and Twitter at @SOBSCumbria.

Angela Samata Appointed Ambassador of SoBS

Angela

 

Angela, has been continually working behind the scenes for Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide since she handed over the position of Chair to Ann Culley.

 

When Angela was asked to be an Ambassador for the Charity she replied  “I’m delighted to accept the role as Ambassador of the Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide. I feel privileged to be asked to represent the work that SoBS do and the continued part that our work plays in the National conversation about the vital need to provide support for those bereaved by suicide. The work and the people that make the Charity all that it is are very close to my heart and I feel honoured to be asked to take up this role.

I’ll never forget the relief that I felt as I walked into a SoBS support group for the first time in 2004. I’m humbled now to be able to encourage others to access SoBS support and to give others the chance to experience the same support I received.

 I followed the path on many before me, first receiving support and then feeling compelled to give a little back to a Charity that played a fundamental part in where I am today.  As a Help-line Volunteer and a Group Leader I gained valuable insight into our work. As a Trustee and Vice Chair I gained valuable insight into how our work is vital at both a local and national level, and as your Chair from 2010-2014 it was my great honour to work on the Board and to ensure our place in the national conversation.

 I was delighted that the BBC brought our work to the fore in our documentary Life After Suicide. Watched by over 3 million people, the film featured the SoBS Liverpool support group, giving a real insight into how our groups work and the vital support they offer. I hope to continue to promote our work and I look forward to working with you.”

 Angela Samata

Can you Help?

Joe Madden Journalist require some help with an article for Cosmopolitan

 

Please read Joe’s request and if you can help get in touch directly with him:

My name’s Joe Madden and I’m a freelance journalist who’s currently working on a piece for Cosmopolitan magazine on depression and suicide amongst young men, and the impact on wives and girlfriends left behind when a man takes his own life. 

 

Cosmopolitan have asked me to write the piece because I suffered from depression in my early 20s – not to the extent that I came close to taking my own life, but enough to have an understanding of how it’d be possible to get to that point.

I’m looking to interview 3-5 women in their 20s or 30s who’ve experienced the loss of a partner through suicide, and I was hoping you’d be okay with me posting a callout for potential interviewees on the SOBS Facebook page?

As part of the piece, I’ll also be speaking to mental health professionals to get an understanding of why young men are so at risk of suicide, and what readers can do if they suspect that their partner or friend is at risk. 

 

If you’d like to see any of my previous work for Cosmopolitan, here’s a piece I did on the Women’s Equality Party .

Let me know what you think, and thanks for your time.

 

Joe Madden

E-mail: joe.madden2001@gmail.com
Tel: 07772 345 407

 

 

 

 

Become a Trustee and make a difference

Trustees’ Wanted

Survivors of Bereavement by suicide are looking for new Board members to join them and help influence the future shape and direction of their organisation.

We are particularly keen to recruit individuals who have relevant work experience in areas such as marketing, fundraising, Finance, human resources, business development, law and safeguarding, although this is by no means essential.

You should have a keen interest in mental health, enthusiasm and commitment along with skills and experience gained through family life, volunteering or professional roles.

You must be eligible to become a company director.

This role is voluntary with paid expenses and involves attending up to six Board meetings per year as well as involvement in chosen work streams and other events.

see the following guidelines from the Charity Commission

https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/509664/cc3_lowink.pdf

If you are interested please contact our National Office.

Telephone: 01159 441 117

email: sobs.admin@care4free.net

you can also complete the following application form and attach it to an email for the attention of the Chief Officer.

TRUSTEES APPOINTMENT APPLICATION

Articles of Association Amendment 10.03.13

Petition – Ban the use of the term “Committed Suicide”

Suffolk SOBs launched petition

The petition to ban the term “committed suicide” from our language was launched 27 August 2015.

We need ten thousand signatures for a response from Government and if we get one hundred thousand signatures, it will be considered for debate in Parliament.

Please go to Suffolk SOBs website www.suffolk-sobs.org.uk or click the following link https://petition.parliament.uk/petitions/106754 if you wish to get involved.  Follow us on Twitter @suffolksobs

The success of this campaign depends largely on each and every one of us giving our support and spreading the word.

Thank you.

Suzy Clifford – SOBs Suffolk